Safety Isn’t Peace. It’s a Pause 🧊
"We are not afraid of our darkness, but of our light." — Marianne Williamson
Most people don’t fear failure.
They fear what would happen if they actually succeeded.
I learned this the hard way.
“Your potential terrifies your comfort zone.”
There was a time when things were finally moving.
The ideas were flowing. The emails were being opened. The audience was growing.
And you’d think I felt proud. Motivated. Ready to level up.
Instead, I froze.
Pulled back.
Started overthinking everything.
Why?
Because stepping into potential isn’t just about skill.
It’s about identity.
And when your identity is built around playing safe, around surviving, not thriving, anything that threatens that status quo feels dangerous.
Even your own expansion.
That’s why growth can feel like grief.
Because you’re not just gaining power, you’re losing the permission to keep hiding.
And hiding, for many of us, has always felt like home.
But here’s the truth…
Your comfort zone isn’t evil. It’s just exhausted.
It was built to keep you safe. And now it’s keeping you small.
As for your potential…
It isn’t trying to destroy your safety.
It’s trying to replace it with something sturdier…
Self-respect.
Purpose.
Responsibility.
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The 30-Day Shadow Integration Journal helps you confront the part of you that wants more, and the part that’s still afraid of becoming it.
It won’t coddle your excuses.
But it will honor your fear, and push you through it with clarity.
Daily inner work.
Today, ask yourself:
“What version of me feels most threatened by my own growth?”
Is it the one that craves control?
The one that fears judgment?
The one that was once punished for being bold?
Then write this:
“I see you. I thank you. But I’m not building a life from your fear anymore.”
And then?
Do one small thing your comfort zone would never approve of.
Let discomfort be your new direction.
Let’s talk about it.
Have you ever felt your own growth scare you?
Like something good was finally happening and you sabotaged it, not because you didn’t want it, but because you didn’t believe you could handle it?
What helped you stop shrinking?
If you’re ready, share it.
Let’s normalize the truth: growth isn’t just action, it’s a psychological rebellion against every old version of you.
All in all.
Your comfort zone will always whisper, “You’re not ready.”
But your potential knows better.
It doesn’t demand perfection.
Just movement.
So if the fear shows up today, let it.
Acknowledge it. Thank it.
Then take the next step anyway.
Because you don’t owe your comfort zone your life story.
You owe your future your courage.
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— Ryan Puusaari ☕💛
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Wow, Ryan, this is so deep and raw at the same time. But you're right; we tend to dismantle what our rewards or future should be to stay in that safe zone where nobody can criticize us. It's hard for others to understand why we engage in these types of reactions in our lives. We have so much to give in so little time. 😞💞🙏