Stop Arguing for Your Cage 🗣️

“Argue for your limitations, and sure enough, they’re yours.” — Richard Bach

We’re taught to be humble. To stay in our lane. To know our limits.

“If you argue for your limitations, you’ll keep them.”

But what if some of those “limits” weren’t truth, just well-rehearsed stories?

“I’m just not a disciplined person.”
“I suck at relationships.”
“I could never do that, people like me don’t.”
“I’ve always had anxiety, it’s just who I am.”

I wore that last one like a badge.
Explained it away like a lawyer in court.
Presented evidence. Made my case airtight.

"When you win the case against yourself... again."

Because deep down, it was easier to argue for my fear than to risk proving it wrong.

At least if I lost while hiding behind my “limits,” it wouldn’t be my fault.

But here’s the trap:

The more convincingly you argue for your pain, your stagnation, your smallness…
The more real it becomes.

It solidifies. Becomes part of your identity.
Until eventually, your suffering isn’t just something you carry.

It’s who you think you are.

And nothing keeps a person stuck more than believing their limitations are facts instead of habits they’re too tired, or too afraid, to challenge.

⚒️ Ready to Break a Pattern?

The 30-Day Shadow Integration Journal was made for this exact reckoning.
To help you meet the parts of yourself you’ve labeled as “just the way I am.”
And ask—Is that really true?

Inner Work

Today’s prompt is simple. But it will sting.

Write this down:

“What limitation do I defend the most?”

Then write the excuses you use to protect it.

Every reason. Every label. Every story.

Now, ask this:
“Who taught me this was a permanent truth, and were they free themselves?”

If they weren’t, maybe it’s not your truth.
Maybe it’s a cage you were born into.
But you’re the one still holding the key.

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Let’s talk about it.

What’s the story you’ve been repeating about yourself that no longer feels fair, or true?

Is it about love? Discipline? Creativity? Safety?

Have you started rewriting it?

What happened when you stopped defending it?

Reply or comment. Let’s talk about the prisons we built out of language, and the first cracks of light we saw when we questioned the walls.

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All in all.

Your limitations may have been taught to you.
You may have rehearsed them so often they sound like instinct.
But you weren’t born with them.

And what you learned, you can unlearn.
What you argued for, you can let go.
What you feared, you can face.

Freedom doesn’t always come from force.
Sometimes it starts with a quiet decision:

I will stop making excuses for why I can’t, and start making room for how I might.

You don’t owe your limitations another defense.

You owe yourself a future.

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