Stop Waiting to Be Allowed 🛑

"You do not have to be good. You only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves." — Mary Oliver

There’s a version of freedom that gets sold to us.

It looks like breaking rules. Leaving jobs. Cutting ties. Moving cities. Posting spicy quotes about not giving a damn. It feels bold. Untamed. Rebellious.

But…

"Freedom isn’t doing whatever you want.
It’s not needing permission to be who you truly are."

If your identity depends on defying someone else’s expectations...
You're still dancing to their music. Just in reverse.

Real freedom is quieter than that.

It’s not screaming “Look at me!”
It’s no longer needing to be seen to feel real.

“No fireworks. No guilt. Just a sacred no from my nervous system.”

I remember the first time I said no without guilt. It wasn’t dramatic. No big confrontation. No grandstanding.

Just a quiet “no” that came from a place inside me I used to ignore.

That moment felt holy.

Not because it proved anything to others…
But because, for once, I wasn’t betraying myself to belong.

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